It is kindness to refuse immediately what you intend to deny. -Publius Syrus
Is it just me or does everyone feel more annoyed with someone who takes ages to tell no to a request than with someone who refuses it immediately? I for one prefer saying "no" bluntly if I have no intention of doing something. Sharp and painful it might be, at least it gives the asker the time to make alternate plans instead of waiting with false hopes. I find it embarassing to refuse - still I believe that the asker will at least appreciate my honesty.
Why am I suddenly stating all this? I asked someone for some help and specifically gave them the choice of refusing immediately. However, true to today's world's ultra polite rules, I was asked to wait on it. And I got a no a day later. So, am I supposed to feel grateful that I got an extra day's respite from the pain of having to listen to the "no"? I dont think so - I prefer honesty any day to pseudo politeness. What do you say?