As I have mentioned elsewhere in my blog, I used to have a good memory for remembering birthdays and wishing people. As I grew older, my memory turned out to be not so reliable. Which was when I became a member of birthdayalarm so that it could send me reminders. Cheating, I agree. But it helps me remember birthdays which was my goal anyways. Who does not like to be remembered on their birthday, no matter how the remembrance actually happened?
Till the time I totally relied upon my memory to aid me in remembering birthdays, I used to get quite annoyed with my friends when they did not remember mine. After all, I took the effort to remember, right? So why couldn't they?
With my own memory lapses came empathy. My friends were not forgetting my birthday because they wanted to or because they couldn't care less. It just so happened that their memory, for whatever reason, was not at its sharpest that day. So nowadays, I am a lot more tolerant.
However, try as I might, I still have a tough time not getting cross with the really close friends/family for lapses. Maybe it is natural to expect much more from people who are close to you.
Recently, when I was talking to someone about birthdays and wishing, they jokingly asked me if I had a people-list against which I placed check-marks if the people wished me on time. I burst out laughing and told them how ridiculous I thought the idea was.
After a while it struck me - I do seem to have some kind of mental list of people I definitely expect to hear from. While I am thrilled and very happy about getting wishes from everyone else, if anyone on the list forgets, I feel a twinge of disappointment.
Nothing wrong with wanting it all, eh :-)?
How many of you care about people wishing you on your birthday? And to what extent?